Unless in a body of water, sex tends to be a very messy affair.

However he is still a responsible mate, and there are some secrets that he won't share without his Lao Wen with him. No matter who asks, or how.

"If she has not sought you out since then, then perhaps she sees no need for a repeat. Make your wishes to speak with her known. Perhaps she will answer."

Or. Well. He. Even that bit of information won't be easily given.